We really live the life we would like? Do we really do what we want? Are we who dreamed of being? In most cases, for each of these questions the answer is no, which contributes to creating a summary framework of a "us" not exactly rewarding. But what are the obstacles that prevent us from transforming those "no" to "yes"? Are they really so insurmountable? Fortunately, even for this question the answer is no. However, realizing that something can be done to improve their existence does not mean that the path is simple. The first step is precisely, paradoxically, to understand in which direction to take the first step. Identifying the source of our defeats is an exciting and very adventurous interior journey, dotted with surprises and dangerous memories that we often don't even know. Valerio Simonetti guides us and helps us find our direction, illustrating with wisdom some fundamental concepts that fluctuate in a fascinating area between the psychology of profound and spirituality.